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I’m Not That Mom…

Not that Mom

I’m not that mom….. you know the ones… the ones that have all their sh*t together. I’m not that mom that cooks breakfast, or dinner, I’m not the one that folds laundry ( yes it does get washed, and put on the “Laundry Chairs” as we now call them) I’m not the one who has a cleaning schedule and I can’t remember the last time that I dusted. I’m not the one that looks put together all the time, in fact I am pretty sure this is day 5 of a messy bun ( Oh how I love dry shampoo!) I’m not that mom who holds her tongue when I’m upset or offended, and if my mouth doesn’t say it my face will surely betray me.

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I am the mom that say’s let’s have an impromptu dance party just to see my daughters beautiful smile. I am the mom who likes to sometimes just sing to her rather than speak my words. I am the mom who lets us both cuddle in the guest bedroom late at night and eat popcorn in the bed while daddy sleeps. I am the mom that makes sure she knows the rules. I am that mom that can be too serious at times and needs to learn to relax. I am the mom that wants to kick the kid that is being mean to my baby. I am the mom who believes that ice cream can be dinner ( you only live once!) I am that mom that strives to make her child have memories that will last a lifetime. I am not perfect by any means and some may say I don’t have sh*t together and my house isn’t always perfectly clean. However I AM THAT MOM who is willing to stop my entire life to make sure that my daughter’s life is BETTER and she has the best child hood that she can. I am HER mom and that’s all that I have to be.

I’m hoping this blog will help you learn that you do not have to compare yourself to other mom’s. Just do your best for your child. You are their mother and you know them best. Too many times other women “Mom Shame” lets stop, lets step back, we don’t know their situation, and even if you do know their situation are you in it? Are you living it?

Lets love one another. Lets lift each other up. Lets pray for each other. Lets just be the mom’s that we are meant to be.

Much love,

-Not that Mom

The love of a mother

Not that Mom

Being a mom is the best job I’ve ever had. Literally it is a job and it’s what I was made to be.

You see, I’ve loved babies and kids since I was young. It started when my sister was born, I’m 7.5 years older than her. So to me it was like getting a real live baby doll! Did I care that this “baby doll” actually needing diaper changes? Needed fed and burped? Or spit up on me? Nope! It was such a delight to have her. My mom always called me “little momma” because from the day she was born I wanted to do EVERYTHING for her. My mom of course happily accepted my help as she was now a mom of 3. Fast forward a few years and I was babysitting other people’s babies. I loved babies and babies loved me! Of course as I got older, baby sister wasn’t as “cool” anymore. However now as adults we are super close and I love having her as one of my best friends.

When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter— I was scared, excited yer I loved her instantly even before I knew she was a girl. The love between a mother and child is such a strong love, at least for me it is. My mom always use to tell me “you won’t understand true love until you have a child” of course I rolled my eyes and thought I already knew what love was, I mean I loved a lot of people already- mom, brother, sister, my grandparents, and my friends? What was she talking about?!?

The day I had her, and I looked into her beautiful brown eyes – that’s when I felt true unconditional love for the first time. I remember looking at my mom and telling “now I understand” she just nodded and smiled.

That term “Mama Bear” it’s real. I’m a total Mama Bear and a “hover” mom. I can’t help it, honestly it just happens.

The love of a Mother is definitely unlike any other love I have ever felt. Everyday I thank God for making me a mom. I would much rather experience the anxiety, the stress, the anger, the disappointment, the pure joy and happiness and all the feelings that come with being a mom than to have never known this kind of love.

I hope that you to get to experience this love.

Yours truly,

Not That Mom